My kids were not ‘good’ sleepers so my husband and i were well versed in the effects of sleep deprivation. Friends suggested we ‘sleep train’, some family members suggested it, and we even had a random doctor suggest it. Here are our top ten reasons we never took that advice and did not sleep train our kids (CIO, Ferber, Modified CIO etc):
10. Babies can feel stress – and crying to sleep for any period is stressful. Stress for kids under 2 is shown to actually change brain development
9. Babies are not “coddled” if you respond to their needs
8. Babies grow – achieve milestones – & often sleep training needs to be ‘redone’ after teething, growth spurts etc.
7. Babies don’t learn to walk in a few months, or eat independently within a few months – sleeping independently is no different
6. Babies don’t have a ‘hidden agenda’ for crying when left alone in a room. They are not trying to manipulate to ‘get their way’
5. Babies often need comfort to sleep – it’s been their routine since conception to be with someone.
4. Babies do not need to self sooth through crying to be “independent” – they achieve this by self-esteem fostered by a strong, trusted bond
3. Babies are not able to calm themselves down when under stress & they wont learn that skill by crying it out.
2. Babies don’t cry just for the sake of it – they are communicating their needs and why they are being ignored is not understood by the baby
1. Babies do better with consistent routine & it works far better in the long run for both sleep and healthy developmentShare This Post: Tweet