I read a great book recently that was a love story but also had a huge component about reincarnation. Without being too religious – there really was no religious part to the story – it talked about past lives and how they influence our present lives {eg. your fears are reactions to something that happened in your past life} in how we live and our fears and the type of people we are drawn to {eg. those people you have an instant connection to are because you knew them in a past life}.
It got me to thinking – I mean that makes sense. I am not saying I believe in reincarnation or that i don’t but our instincts do guide us. My daughter R has a fear that just doesn’t make sense to me. I mean I can understand why it is there – but not why she has this fear.
R will get very anxious to the point of crying if a grown man {stranger} enters a room that she is in. Like, if we are at home and a guy comes over that she doesn’t know or if she is in her 1 hour preschool class if one of the Dads goes to pick up their child she will start crying… instantly. It doesn’t bother her if we are in crowds and doesn’t really matter if we are there with her or not – since it happens in our house too.
She is only 3 years old and I know that she has not had any bad even that would have spawned this off. It started nearly 2 years ago and she has never been anywhere other then in my care. She only started preschool in September {it’s only 1 hour a week} so I am sort of baffled as to why she has it or where it came from or even how to help her with it. Will she grow out of it?
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I am baffled too! I had a fear of the highway growing up. I hated when my mom or dad drove on the highway with me in the car. We were never in a car accident and nothing bad ever happened. I could only verbalized that I didn't like it, I never knew why either. Just reassure R, maybe have her draw out why/how she's feeling that way. Maybe she's dreamt something and it stems from a subconscious fear or dream.
I have been wondering where the fear comes from too. I bet it is just something a kid saw or heard in passing or something and with the active imagination kids seem to have it made it worse then it was?? just an idea.
I have a fear of crickets but that is because I had a bucket of them thrown on me as a child. My nephew who is 5 is scared of heights and has been since he knew what being high was, so his is almost instinctive. So I would say it's a little bit of both. I do have to say that I believe that all fear are rational and I'm not the type to make someone "face their fears". Just my opinion.
I think fears are, usually, a result of something but sometimes instinctual. It's hard to tell what's sparking your daughter's and I'm sorry I don't have any good advice but I hope you find some good advice from others today!
if you are interested in reading more on that subject, Look for the book Many lives, Many Masters..
I have a fear of vomit. LOL
I have dealt with anxiety since I was eighteen. My anxiety usually comes when I can't get out of somewhere. Like I don't mind crowds but don't want to be in the middle of them. Like when we go to church I have to sit in the aisle or outside on the couches. I hate elevators, airplanes (won't do), waiting in traffic. I have realized that I am claustrophobic. My heart starts skipping, I sweat, and feel faint. Sucks but it's been something I have learned to work through….