I have been very fortunate to have a wide range of people who I chat with, who read Accustomed Chaos or who stumble across my writing. People who are vastly different from me in nearly every way and others who could probably be my sibling from another mingling (I just made that up, heh). Since I don’t really have one focused niche here I get a mix of people who are gluten free, looking for recipes that real families can make and some who, like me, are parents and just trying to find someone who understands the wonderfully chaotic world of parenting.
One thing that is totally apparent in the world of parenting is everyone has their own way of doing something. Everyone does what they believe is the best for their family, their situation and do the best they can with what they know at the time. Every parent will make a handful or more mistakes as we learn our way and everyone has an opinion.
& that includes me, which is where my conundrum comes in. My worry and fears that I will hurt feelings or alienate, yet wondering if those fears are holding me back from being truly authentic.
I have always been a people pleaser or a peace keeper I don’t like to disappoint people and am never out to hurt feelings. When you write about parenting topics, styles and personal choices — all that seems inevitable no matter how non-attacking you try to be. I am very passionate about parenting and feel strongly about some aspects. I have never really made those passions a secret, but for some reason I am hesitant to write about them further.
I used to, when I didn’t have as many eyes on this site. I am thankful to have so many eyes here because it’s helped me grow as a mom, feel less alone and has been a pathway to a career for me. I don’t want to make it sound like I wish less people read. That’s far from the case. I just have so much more I would like to write about, but I fear that I will alienate.
Is it possible to talk about parenting without making the ‘other side’ automatically feel like shit? I don’t know - I hope there is. I am going to give it a try I mean, this space is mine, right? And those that matter – like all of you — should be able to see that I am not out to be harmful or hurtful on purpose. I don’t know why I am so afraid. If I had to guess it’s because I have been writing for a much larger space and have received more than my fair share of hateful words and people who don’t understand where I am coming from. This space is sort of my safe haven — my fabulous friends who know me — there is something safe in that.
I am going to push past it and try to re-focus my safe writing zone — not think about what could go wrong and bring this space back to more me.Share This Post: Tweet