I am so beyond thrilled to be pregnant again. Fearing it wasn’t going to happen after 14 months of infertility with no past history of having trouble conceiving, when that test turned positive, I was beyond thrilled. I was looking forward to so many things about pregnancy and now as I am about to hit the half-way mark, I am remembering some of the less-than awesome things about pregnancy.
I wouldn’t change it for anything because even the extreme bad (kidney stones) are far outweighed by the good things. It’s a magical time and I fully understand and respect that not everyone who hopes to experience this, gets to so I like to really make sure I am looking on the brighter side and soaking in all the good things this has to offer.
It’s hard to deny though that there are some annoying things that happen when you’re pregnant. From the weird symptoms and complications of pregnancy to how the world now interacts with you once you’re gestating a new life. There seems to be this idea that the bump means walking billboard to ask inappropriate questions to strangers and having your life be an open book.
Click through to read 10 questions pregnant women are tired of answering.
1) When are you due?
I have this thing about due dates — the more people you tell the exact date your doctor and ultrasound confirmed, the more annoying phone calls you will get when you’re two weeks to the due date (and after) with people wondering if you’ve had the baby yet. I like to keep it simple and say I’m due in December because that due date doesn’t really mean too much.
2) Do you know what you’re having?
I know that when asked this people want to know if you know the gender of the baby, but sometimes I like to answer more literally and say, “yes, a baby”. While I do know the gender, I am not sharing quite yet — but I can confirm it is, indeed a baby.
3) Are you going to breastfeed
While I don’t really mind this one too much, because I can answer, “yes”, I just find it’s a strange question to ask someone. I know it can open a dialogue, but asking in such a way feel like you will get judged no matter how you answer. If you’re close with someone and it’s not just a random stranger it’s still probably best to wait until or unless they strike up a conversation about infant feeding first.
4) You have to be due soon, right?
This is always asked when you’re like only 5 months pregnant, half way there and then see the shock and horror in people’s eyes when they hear that you still have months and months left to go. It’s judgey and puts a shame on the pregnant body, which I don’t think is okay ever.
5) Are you sure it’s not twins?
Usually a follow up question to the previous one.
6) How are you feeling?
Generally this is not a bad question to ask someone, although it can at times feel like the generic how are you feeling we say after we say hello. For me, I find it a little tiring answering because no one really wants to hear me complain. I don’t like to complain and to my super friends I will, but the random stranger doesn’t want to hear about your vomiting, lack of sleep, kidney stones, or bowels.
7) How far along are you?
You get asked this all the time as a gestating woman and while it’s not bad, there are times where you are asked multiple times in one day and that can get tiring. I like the idea of those shirts that some women wear that answers those questions already.
8) Have you read What to Expect When You’re Expecting?
I don’t know how or when this book became the “pregnancy bible”, but I don’t advise any pregnant woman read that book. To me it reads like a fear-mongering this is “all the things that could go wrong, yet avoiding the real things that could go wrong and what to do if they do” book and yet it seems to be the only one people really know. I tell people to go out and get The Mother of All Pregnancy Books by Ann Douglas!
9) Will you have a ___________ birth?
(insert home birth, water birth, hospital birth, c-section, natural birth, midwife attended)
To me, it’s a strange question to ask unless you really do know the person. Also, any way you answer it always seem like you’re going to get some sort of eye roll or judgement.
10) Can I touch your belly?
Really, if you’re lucky enough to be asked first and not just straight out accosted, that’s pretty good. Still, I don’t get the fascination of touching a pregnant belly — especially from strangers!
:: What question were you or are you tired of being asked as a pregnant woman? Tell me in the comments! ::
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